I have the feeling you are all talking USA or something like that.
I live all the way across the ocean, in Europe.... Out here in the Netherlands, there is quite a few gamers, but it tends to be realy (I mean realy) hard to find them.
Especialy since there are very few (good) gaming shops around. Most buy their equipment by mailorder here. (Great to have amazone around)
n.b. To go to my game, I have to drive around 45 minutes, if you imagine most people here feel that a 30 min drive to go to work is far......